Not much to report this week. Its back to the waiting. For me, there’s been a lot of waiting in this adoption malarky, and still more to come no doubt before I’ve finished the process!
I have almost completed my portfolio for stage one and sent it all off to my SW. So now, until the 28th February, there’s almost nothing left to do. In fact I’m almost putting off completely finishing the portfolio just so it still feels like I do still have something to do!
I have had messages from a couple of my many referees to say they’ve sent off their forms, but not all. And as well as waiting for my medical form to come back from the independent assessor, I’m also waiting on my DBS form to come back. If any of the references or required forms don’t come back by the 28th, then I’ll be stuck here still in the waiting, not being able to move on until they do. This part of the process is literally out of my hands.
I have to trust that overall the timing will all work out as it should do. Even from meeting people through my prep group with the same agency I found out our journeys to that point through the process had varied. And, reading other people’s blog accounts of their journey so far makes me realise just how much it can vary. Everyone’s timescales, the speed they move through the process and the speed at which they are eventually matched varies significantly. Comparing my journey with someone else’s is utterly pointless. There are similarities and the emotional journey is probably the same, but the nuts and bolts of what happens seem to be totally different. So I know I need to be cautious about comparing my journey to other people’s, it really wont help.
And there seems to be a lot of placing things into other people’s hands – the references, the SW’s reports, panels, matching… As well as my patience, my ability to trust other people will be tested well before the end of the process!
Right now, My mantra is: It’ll all work out. There is no rush. It’ll all happen at the right time. It really is out of my hands.